When Life is not Fair

When life is not fair:  then

  1. I must leave the “fair/unfair” plane of existence.
  2. I must heighten my meager “fairness” concept to find God’s Spirit of life.
  3. I must accept my day’s wage of a penny, and realize that all get the same, “grace.”

Kristen Butler said this “Sometimes you just need to talk to a four year old and an 84 year old to understand life again. powerofpositivity

“If life is unfair with everyone, doesn’t that make life fair?” —  Magaola

Friends, accepting the unfairness of life — does that help us? I think rather that it breeds pessimism. No, our Father instead has asked us to climb into His wisdom and insight — to share with Him the deep meaning of the universe He created, and also later redeemed. The point of unfairness lies in our tainted, finite, partially blinded perspective — not in some seeming oversight of God. God is fair, perfectly.

“…in a classic experiment known as the Ultimatum Game, people will work against their own interests to punish someone who’s acting unfairly. In the game, people are divided up into pairs. The first person is presented with a sum of money – say $10. He or she has to propose a split to the second person – for example, split it evenly; keep $9 and give the second person $1; keep $1 and give away $9; and so on.”

“If the second person agrees to the split, both people get their share of the money. If the second person says no, nobody gets anything. Logically, the second person should agree to receive any amount above zero. If the first person only offers them a dollar, that’s still better than nothing. But that’s not what happens. If the second person sees the split as unfair, they’ll reject the offer, even though they then get nothing.”   rapidlearninginstitute.

So, a simple, but telling, experiment reveals mostly what folks expect from others — “treat me fairly.” However when the shoe is on the other foot, the person holding the money may try to get the largest percentage possible — even if the other person feels slighted. This flaw brings up the famous saying of Jesus:

“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.”

Matthew 7:12

Yes, the law and prophets says, treat everyone fairly, as you would like to be treated. Well, relationships now are defined and settled by this verse.

But then a friend snubs us, a disease attacks us, a loved one dies. Life again treats us unfairly!

God allows it. I balk at understanding, I am tempted to resent my Maker. How can He deal with me so meanly? My focus turns to God, alone.

Now the moment of pivot confronts us; I can

  1. run angrily away from the confusion, deny it or force it out of consciousness, or
  2. fall on my face before my Loving Father.

Oh how we need to touch eternity, to find the enigmatic purpose, to understand great mysteries, to be schooled into faith-rest.

In closing, God has a hidden surprise waiting for us — a discipline of self-control, patience, and restraint which will allow me to walk on higher and higher places. There are no shortcuts. But our Father desires for us to see the heights, to experience the joys, to bask in the purposes of revealing His eternity to others in the midst of their “unfair” world. This brings true meaning to every “negative” thing.

We have been translated from the kingdom of darkness, into the kingdom of God’s dear Son. Hallelujah !

Love ya


  1. Janet said:

    Awesome share. Luv it! TY for all u invest in us sheep and also for your investments to bring others to The Great Shepherd!!! ✝️📖🙏🎶🐑

    November 11, 2019
    • pt s said:

      You’re so welcome, and thanks for the encouraging words.

      November 11, 2019
  2. P. Norm said:

    Thanks P. Tom,
    No one was ever treated more unfairly than Jesus Christ. Heb 12 : 3.
    Could it be that an ” unfair experience” draw me to Jesus to hear what he has to say . If so many of my experiences are awesome I tend not to consult Christ
    at all. Simply allow God to draw you into His bosom and speak face to face.
    Some call this prayer , anytime, anyplace , for any reason. Yes this is God’s Grace.
    P. Norm

    November 11, 2019
    • pt s said:

      Yes Jesus is the mediator between us and God the Father. His suffering makes us feel like He certainly knows about mine.

      November 11, 2019
  3. Sandy Mucci said:

    Thank you Pastor Tom!

    November 12, 2019
    • pt s said:

      Thanks for the encouragement.

      November 12, 2019

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