Crying over Spilled Milk?

Common sense can cure some depression but folks who renege at receiving God’s grace may be the source of their own problem. Common sense often requires no spiritual insight, and unchristian men and women may handle their depression by simple coping. They understand things like “no sense crying over spilled milk.”

Here are some more common sense sayings:

“Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could do only a little.” Edmund Burke

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.”  H. Jackson Brown, Jr.”

How could these men know these things?

Martyn Lloyd Jones said this,

“Christianity is common sense and much more, but it includes common sense.”

He goes on:

“Let us then lay this down as a principle…We must never for a second worry about anything that cannot be affected or changed by us…It is a waste of energy…if you can do nothing about a situation, stop thinking about it, never again look back at it, never think about it.” M.L.J.     Serenity Prayer?

People verbalize regrets, “if only (I could get back) the time I have wasted!”

What I (Jones), say to him is this: Are you making up for the lost time?”

If you are suffering from this condition: take your self in hand and

  1. examine yourself from an ordinary common-sense point of view
  2. you are behaving like a fool
  3. you are irrational
  4. you are wasting your time and your energy.  M.L.J.

Let’s Pause: People who have no spiritual resource may still function in a kind of grace, but it is a grace based on a self-imposed righteousness that measures up to a self fabricated image or standard. These folks have a few moral conditions which they keep up (such as not killing, stealing or rape). Sometimes, through sacrifice for others and their good moral character, they create in themselves a sense of self-acceptance. With their high position, they operate anxiety-free.

However when a new standard is imposed on them from another source, such as a tragic business loss or sickness, they may get depressed. Why? Because the “have-to” mode of  operation disables their “grace” and they are found wanting and ineffective. Their swagger takes a hit.

Some resilient ones adjust to the new standards in time and regain the cool flow of that “self-grace” again.


Who’s kidding who? graced-out folks can use common sense because of God’s grace, but the same is not true for nonspiritual folks, Christian or not.

So, what about the issue of depression? This happens when a self-graced person becomes confronted by a “have-to” from another source, gets anxious but never overcomes in the challenge. Instead, this one keeps trying but failing, and never finds the true grace that comes from God alone to release the pressure.

They cope and repress thoughts and widen the parameters of their false grace. They fight, but their self attention only complicates their depression.



The book of Joel teaches: ” And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm…”

This is true Grace!

Brothers and sisters and every person alive, we never need to cry over spilled milk because God can fix our failed thing, fix us, fix our lost time. The last hired worker in the vineyard got the same as the all-day laborer. Matthew 20:9. “It is Christ who died, yea, rather has risen.”

That bloody cross takes us above common sense. No, it doesn’t make complete sense to us, but blood was shed for you and me.

Proverbs 11:13 teaches that “he that is of a faithful spirit conceals the matter! Friends, do the little thing, do your best today and forget the spilled milk. Don’t moan, bemoan, what can’t be changed, Let your eyes look right on (Him), Ponder the path of your feet, turn not to the right hand or left, take thy foot out from evil. love ya



  1. Cathy Caron said:

    Hi Pastor Tom,

    I enjoyed this. There was a saying that was popular a few years back, “Common sense isn’t”. It made sense to me! Sort of like the “keep it simple stupid”. God’s mercy upon our lives is so needed. I need to apply it liberally to myself – and remember to do it.

    As for depression; God is our great healer. Many times HIS healing is to bring us home. Until then, using His strength for this as opposed to my will power, I have lived long enough to know that I need to choose to exercise. It is probably the best anti-depressant I can take daily doses of (and believe me I am in no danger of over-dosing). Also, I get to choose what I eat. Again, I have lived long enough to KNOW what to do. Every bite I take is either creating health or illness. I will reap what I sow. To know what to do and do it not….. well that is sin. So here is where mercy comes in as well as remembering WHOSE strength I live in to accomplish anything. 🙂

    God bless.

    December 4, 2017
    • pt s said:

      Yes our thought life is where we get messed up. To keep a vision by any means helps combating depression. great thoughts thanks

      December 5, 2017

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